HOSPITALS AND PRISONS SUPPORT

PROGRAMS

We give support to people who are regularly in and out of hospitals and prisons. We do this through:

  • Befriending
  • Counseling
  • Practical and emotional support
  • Hospital / Prison visits

We also provide support services for those affected by:

  • Domestic violence
  • Sexual abuse
  • HIV/AIDS
  • Refugees

CONFIDENTIALITY

Our services are completely confidential .We guarantee that your information will not be shared with anyone unless you give your full consent.

Areas of Counselling

  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Addiction
  • HIV/AIDS
  • Depression
  • Relationships
  • Bereavement
  • Drug & Alcohol
  • Forced marriage
  • Domestic violence
  • Hate crime/ homophobic
  • Supporting victims of sexual violence

 


Asylum and Refugee Community Advisory Services( ARCAS )

An independent useful resources drop-in information centre dealing in:
  • Immigration, refugee and asylum matters.
  • Education on culture, history and language.
  • General advice on matters relating to health and welfare.
  • Education for old and young on opportunities for employment and self employment so that they can become responsible members of the society.
  • Preparing of Multi – Agency forum for refugee needs and ambitions

Refugee Network

This charity is concerned with several issues and here is some background information on some of the issues:

Befriending

Many older people feel lonely because they live alone due to their children moving out or their partner passing away. It is estimated that about 370,000 people over 75 do not communicate with another person on a daily basis. Here are some facts about loneliness:
  • There are more women than men who report that they feel lonely.
  • 1 in 3 older people are affected by loneliness.
  • About 5 million of the older population say that TV is their main form of company.
  • About 51% of people aged 75 and over live alone.
  • It is predicted that the rates of loneliness among older people will increase to 40% by 2030.
  • Research shows that loneliness is very harmful to our health and is even worse than risk factors such as physical inactivity and obesity.
  • It is important that we try to reduce loneliness because it is bad for our health. It has been found to increase blood pressure, the likelihood of depression and even Alzheimer’s disease.
We can help to reduce loneliness by:
  • Being more friendly to your elderly neighbours- even a chat for a few minutes can help them feel better.
  • Volunteer with HPWI for a few hours a week to befriend an older person.

HIV and AIDS

DID YOU KNOW?
  • At the end of 2013, there were an estimated 107, 800 people in the UK living with HIV.
  • The majority of people with HIV were infected through sex.
  • About 26,000 people with HIV do not know they are infected.
  • The two groups with the highest rates of HIV are gay and bisexual men and Black African heterosexuals.
  • HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus
HIV is a virus, which attacks the immune system and your body cannot clear it over time so once you have it, it is for life. It weakens your immune system and your ability to fight infections and diseases. HIV destroys your T cells/ CD4 cells and these cells are needed to fight infections and diseases. Over a long period of time, HIV can destroy so many of these cells so your body is no longer capable of fighting infections and diseases anymore. When it gets to this stage, HIV infection can lead to AIDS (the final stage of HIV infection).
Taking proper treatment called ‘antiretroviral therapy’ can help prevent someone from progressing to AIDS. This will help to keep the level of HIV virus in your body low. It works by controlling the virus so that the person can live a longer, healthy life.
AIDS stands for Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome. This is the final stage of HIV infection and not everyone who has HIV advances to this stage. With early diagnosis and effective treatment, most people with HIV will not go on to develop AIDS.

How is HIV transmitted?

HIV virus cannot survive outside the body for long and is found in the body fluids of an infected person. These body fluids include blood, semen, pre-seminal fluid, rectal fluids, vaginal fluids and breast milk.
The most common way of getting HIV in the UK is by anal or vaginal sex without a condom. Other ways include using a contaminated needle, transmission from mother to baby during pregnancy, birth or breastfeeding and through oral sex or sharing sex toys.
Remember the only way to know if you have HIV is to get tested so go to your doctor if you have any doubts. The earlier HIV is diagnosed, the earlier you can start receiving treatment and avoid becoming ill. In addition to getting test at your GP surgery, you can go to sexual health clinics and clinics run by charities including the Terrence Higgins Trust.

Preventing HIV

Always use a condom when having sex and do not share needles or other injecting equipment. Ensure that you check you and your partners HIV status before having unprotected sex.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

DID YOU KNOW?
  • Ninety-two percent of physical abusers are men. However, women can also be the perpetrators of domestic violence.
  • About seventy-five percent of stalkers are men stalking women. But stalkers can also be women stalking men, men stalking men, or women stalking women.
  • Domestic abuse knows no age or ethnic boundaries.
  • Domestic abuse can occur during a relationship or after a relationship has ended.
  • Domestic abuse between spouses or intimate partners is when one person in a marital or intimate relationship tries to control the other person. The perpetrator uses fear and intimidation and may threaten to use or may actually use physical violence.
The victim of domestic abuse or domestic violence may be a man or a woman. Domestic abuse occurs in traditional heterosexual marriages, as well as in same-sex partnerships. Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to physical violence. Domestic violence may even end up in murder.
The key elements of domestic abuse are:
  • intimidation
  • humiliating the other person
  • physical injury
Domestic abuse is not a result of losing control; domestic abuse is intentionally trying to control another person. The abuser is purposefully using verbal, nonverbal, or physical means to gain control over the other person.
What are the types of domestic abuse:
  • Physical abuse (domestic violence)
  • Verbal or nonverbal abuse (psychological abuse, mental abuse, emotional abuse)
  • Sexual abuse
  • Stalking or cyber-stalking
  • Economic abuse or financial abuse
  • Spiritual abuse

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP? WHAT ARE THE SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?

The more of the following questions that you answer Yes to, the more likely you are in an abusive relationship. Examine your answers and seek help if you find that you respond positively to a large number of the questions.

Your inner feelings and dialogue: Fear, self-loathing, numbness, desperation

  • Are you fearful of your partner a large percentage of the time?
  • Do you avoid certain topics or spend a lot of time figuring out how to talk about certain topics so that you do not arouse your partner’s negative reaction or anger?
  • Do you ever feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
  • Do you ever feel so badly about yourself that you think you deserve to be physically hurt?
  • Have you lost the love and respect that you once had for your partner?
  • Do you sometimes wonder if you are the one who is crazy, that maybe you are overreacting to your partner’s behaviors?
  • Do you sometimes fantasize about ways to kill your partner to get them out of your life?
  • Are you afraid that your partner may try to kill you?
  • Are you afraid that your partner will try to take your children away from you?
  • Do you feel that there is nowhere to turn for help?
  • Are you feeling emotionally numb?
  • Were you abused as a child, or did you grow up with domestic violence in the household? Does domestic violence seem normal to you?

Your partner’s lack of control over their own behavior:

  • Does your partner have low self-esteem? Do they appear to feel powerless, ineffective, or inadequate in the world, although they are outwardly successful?
  • Does your partner externalize the causes of their own behavior? Do they blame their violence on stress, alcohol, or a “bad day”?
  • Is your partner unpredictable?
  • Is your partner a pleasant person between bouts of violence?

Your partner’s violent or threatening behavior:

  • Does your partner have a bad temper?
  • Has your partner ever threatened to hurt you or kill you?
  • Has your partner ever physically hurt you?
  • Has your partner threatened to take your children away from you, especially if you try to leave the relationship?
  • Has your partner ever threatened to commit suicide, especially as a way of keeping you from leaving?
  • Has your partner ever forced you to have sex when you didn’t want to?
  • Has your partner threatened you at work, either in person or on the phone?
  • Is your partner cruel to animals?
  • Does your partner destroy your belongings or household objects?

Your partner’s controlling behavior:

  • Does your partner try to keep you from seeing your friends or family?
  • Are you embarrassed to invite friends or family over to your house because of your partner’s behavior?
  • Has your partner limited your access to money, the telephone, or the car?
  • Does your partner try to stop you from going where you want to go outside of the house, or from doing what you want to do?
  • Is your partner jealous and possessive, asking where you are going and where you have been, as if checking up on you? Do they accuse you of having an affair?

Your partner’s diminishment of you:

  • Does your partner verbally abuse you?
  • Does your partner humiliate or criticize you in front of others?
  • Does your partner often ignore you or put down your opinions or contributions?
  • Does your partner always insist that they are right, even when they are clearly wrong?
  • Does your partner blame you for their own violent behavior, saying that your behavior or attitudes cause them to be violent?
  • Is your partner often outwardly angry with you?
  • Does your partner objectify and disrespect those of your gender? Does your partner see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
  • In my workplace, what are the warning signs that a person is a victim of domestic violence?

What is the effect of domestic violence on children?

Children who witness domestic violence may develop serious emotional, behavioral, developmental, or academic problems. As children, they may become violent themselves, or withdraw. Some act out at home or school; others try to be the perfect child. Children from violent homes may become depressed and have low self-esteem.
As they develop, children and teens who grow up with domestic violence in the household are:
  • more likely to use violence at school or in the community in response to perceived threats
  • more likely to attempt suicide
  • more likely to use drugs
  • more likely to commit crimes, especially sexual assault
  • more likely to use violence to enhance their reputation and self-esteem
  • more likely to become abusers in their own relationships later in life

LGBT people

HPWI supports the fundamental rights and promotes the interests of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) people to live as acceptable members of the larger human community and contribute effectively to its socio-economic, political and physical development.
Do you belong to any LGBT group or want to share your personal experience in this respect as an individual? Do you think we may be of support to you personally or to your LGBT group? Please don’t hesitate to contact us.
Is your LGBT group having a special program or event? You can reach out through this medium.

Sheilla’s Lesbian Experience

My name is Sheilla. I’m 20 years girl and want your advice.
I am a lesbian. I started this behavior 5 years ago when I was in high school.
My Parents and sisters do not know about my new sexual orientation, although I am sure that my sisters might be suspecting my relationship with my close babe, to be nothing but a Lesbian relationship.
In my babe’s absence, I go to town or parties to search for other lovely, young lesbians or straight young girls who will love to experiment it with a girl and I enjoy making love with them. It is a rare fun, far better than the conventional love affair between a man and a woman.
Of late, I am beginning to be uncomfortable with this life style of mine, especially now that I find men unattractive and have developed a psychological feeling that they cannot satisfy me erotically.
Not Minding how sweet being a Lesbians is, I have tried to stop this behaviour but it seems impossible to me.
Please, advice me on how I can stop it because I don’t want to be involved in it with any one close to me, as I am not strong enough to hold myself back in presence of pretty young ladies. I need your advise seriously.

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