We give support to people who are regularly in and out of hospitals and prisons. We do this through:
- Practical and emotional support
- Hospital / Prison visits
We also provide support services for those affected by:
- Domestic violence
- Sexual abuse
Our services are completely confidential .We guarantee that your information will not be shared with anyone unless you give your full consent.
Areas of Counselling
- Drug & Alcohol
- Forced marriage
- Domestic violence
- Hate crime/ homophobic
- Supporting victims of sexual violence
Asylum and Refugee Community Advisory Services( ARCAS )
- Immigration, refugee and asylum matters.
- Education on culture, history and language.
- General advice on matters relating to health and welfare.
- Education for old and young on opportunities for employment and self employment so that they can become responsible members of the society.
- Preparing of Multi – Agency forum for refugee needs and ambitions
This charity is concerned with several issues and here is some background information on some of the issues:
- There are more women than men who report that they feel lonely.
- 1 in 3 older people are affected by loneliness.
- About 5 million of the older population say that TV is their main form of company.
- About 51% of people aged 75 and over live alone.
- It is predicted that the rates of loneliness among older people will increase to 40% by 2030.
- Research shows that loneliness is very harmful to our health and is even worse than risk factors such as physical inactivity and obesity.
- It is important that we try to reduce loneliness because it is bad for our health. It has been found to increase blood pressure, the likelihood of depression and even Alzheimer’s disease.
- Being more friendly to your elderly neighbours- even a chat for a few minutes can help them feel better.
- Volunteer with HPWI for a few hours a week to befriend an older person.
HIV and AIDS
- At the end of 2013, there were an estimated 107, 800 people in the UK living with HIV.
- The majority of people with HIV were infected through sex.
- About 26,000 people with HIV do not know they are infected.
- The two groups with the highest rates of HIV are gay and bisexual men and Black African heterosexuals.
- HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus
How is HIV transmitted?
- Ninety-two percent of physical abusers are men. However, women can also be the perpetrators of domestic violence.
- About seventy-five percent of stalkers are men stalking women. But stalkers can also be women stalking men, men stalking men, or women stalking women.
- Domestic abuse knows no age or ethnic boundaries.
- Domestic abuse can occur during a relationship or after a relationship has ended.
- Domestic abuse between spouses or intimate partners is when one person in a marital or intimate relationship tries to control the other person. The perpetrator uses fear and intimidation and may threaten to use or may actually use physical violence.
- humiliating the other person
- physical injury
- Physical abuse (domestic violence)
- Verbal or nonverbal abuse (psychological abuse, mental abuse, emotional abuse)
- Sexual abuse
- Stalking or cyber-stalking
- Economic abuse or financial abuse
- Spiritual abuse
HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP? WHAT ARE THE SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?
The more of the following questions that you answer Yes to, the more likely you are in an abusive relationship. Examine your answers and seek help if you find that you respond positively to a large number of the questions.
Your inner feelings and dialogue: Fear, self-loathing, numbness, desperation
- Are you fearful of your partner a large percentage of the time?
- Do you avoid certain topics or spend a lot of time figuring out how to talk about certain topics so that you do not arouse your partner’s negative reaction or anger?
- Do you ever feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
- Do you ever feel so badly about yourself that you think you deserve to be physically hurt?
- Have you lost the love and respect that you once had for your partner?
- Do you sometimes wonder if you are the one who is crazy, that maybe you are overreacting to your partner’s behaviors?
- Do you sometimes fantasize about ways to kill your partner to get them out of your life?
- Are you afraid that your partner may try to kill you?
- Are you afraid that your partner will try to take your children away from you?
- Do you feel that there is nowhere to turn for help?
- Are you feeling emotionally numb?
- Were you abused as a child, or did you grow up with domestic violence in the household? Does domestic violence seem normal to you?
Your partner’s lack of control over their own behavior:
- Does your partner have low self-esteem? Do they appear to feel powerless, ineffective, or inadequate in the world, although they are outwardly successful?
- Does your partner externalize the causes of their own behavior? Do they blame their violence on stress, alcohol, or a “bad day”?
- Is your partner unpredictable?
- Is your partner a pleasant person between bouts of violence?
Your partner’s violent or threatening behavior:
- Does your partner have a bad temper?
- Has your partner ever threatened to hurt you or kill you?
- Has your partner ever physically hurt you?
- Has your partner threatened to take your children away from you, especially if you try to leave the relationship?
- Has your partner ever threatened to commit suicide, especially as a way of keeping you from leaving?
- Has your partner ever forced you to have sex when you didn’t want to?
- Has your partner threatened you at work, either in person or on the phone?
- Is your partner cruel to animals?
- Does your partner destroy your belongings or household objects?
Your partner’s controlling behavior:
- Does your partner try to keep you from seeing your friends or family?
- Are you embarrassed to invite friends or family over to your house because of your partner’s behavior?
- Has your partner limited your access to money, the telephone, or the car?
- Does your partner try to stop you from going where you want to go outside of the house, or from doing what you want to do?
- Is your partner jealous and possessive, asking where you are going and where you have been, as if checking up on you? Do they accuse you of having an affair?
Your partner’s diminishment of you:
- Does your partner verbally abuse you?
- Does your partner humiliate or criticize you in front of others?
- Does your partner often ignore you or put down your opinions or contributions?
- Does your partner always insist that they are right, even when they are clearly wrong?
- Does your partner blame you for their own violent behavior, saying that your behavior or attitudes cause them to be violent?
- Is your partner often outwardly angry with you?
- Does your partner objectify and disrespect those of your gender? Does your partner see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
- In my workplace, what are the warning signs that a person is a victim of domestic violence?
What is the effect of domestic violence on children?
- more likely to use violence at school or in the community in response to perceived threats
- more likely to attempt suicide
- more likely to use drugs
- more likely to commit crimes, especially sexual assault
- more likely to use violence to enhance their reputation and self-esteem
- more likely to become abusers in their own relationships later in life
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